Choosing Attention Over Intimacy Outline (For Prayer 1.29.24)
We won't be able to cover all of this tonight for prayer, so I wanted to type out the highlights.
I . Attention behavior
A. When a person says or does something with the goal of getting the attention of a person or a group of people, usually for affirmation or validation.
A. Histrionic personality disorder - a mental health condition marked by unstable emotions, a distorted self-image and an overwhelming desire to be noticed. People with HPD often behave dramatically or inappropriately to get attention. THIS IS EXTREME ATTENTION SEEKING.
B. Borderline Personality Disorder
C. Narcissistic Personality Disorder
II. Signs of Attention Seeking Behavior
A. Fishing for compliments by pointing out achievements and seeking validation.
B. Being controversial to provoke a reaction.
C. Withdrawing to provoke a reaction/response. This is also a form of pouting.
D. Exaggerating and embellishing stories to gain praise or sympathy.
III. Drivers of Attention Seeking Behavior
B. Lack of community
C. Lack of boundaries
E. Low self-esteem
F. Sinister motives
IV. Spiritual Implications
A. Attention seeking is so powerful it can make us disregard our relationship with God completely. It changes our gaze.
1. Attention seeking welcomes pride, vanity, control and idolatry.
B. Attention seeking seeks praise of people to feel valuable.
1. Infuses pride and superiority - different from support and affirmation.
C. Attention seeking spirits desire power to control an atmosphere or how people seem them.
D. People who crave attention from other people are consumed with looking good in front of people not God.
E. For the world offers only a craving for physical pleasure, a craving for everything we see, and pride in our achievements and possessions. These are not from the Father, but are from this world (1 John 2:16 NLT).
F. Attention seeking is insatiable
1. Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days (Psalm 90:14 NIV).
2. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for God’s approval. They will be satisfied (Matthew 5:6 GW).
G. Attention seeking destroys relationship.
V. Intimacy With God
1. Revelation 1
2. Psalm 139 provides a blueprint of what intimacy with God looks and feels like.
3. Confront the feelings/fears of wanting to be known. This is different from innate desire of belonging.
4. Pray through specific pain, disappointment, or discouragement that keeps you from giving your heart and being vulnerable with God and friends.
5. Establish relationships/friendships (associates, covenant friendships, etc.). YOUR COMMUNITY SHOULD ALWAYS MIRROR THE IMAGE OF GOD.