They say it takes a village to raise a child, but I have learned it takes a community to be a mom. Let me explain...
My name is Bethany Pierce. I am the wife of Brandon Pierce and we have 3 beautiful children. Bailey J (3 ½), Joshua (2), and not pictured above Jeremiah (5 months old). For the past 5 years I have had the pleasure of stepping into wife and motherhood. I can honestly say it has been the most rewarding and humbling experience of my life. Recently I have fully stepped into the stay at home mom role 😳. Being a Mom didn't start off easy; it's had it's ups and downs, but I have grown as a mom and it's my hope that as a network we can all grow further as moms together.
Today as our first blog discussion, we are going to be talking about a schedule. Establishing a schedule was a game changer for me! Being a mom has a lot of components which having a schedule helps organize.
But wait! I would like to start off with a few noteworthy things before I outline my schedule.
1. First things first!
· I always start my day with the Lord or my quiet time. This requires me to get up before everybody wakes up! When I first started staying at home, I would fail to do this. My day was instantly off, and I found myself having to regroup all day long during chaos. For me, it is my morning devotional (youversion, email devotionals, or even YouTube videos) that gets me going. I find that when I do this before my children get up, I feel a lot better.
2. Remember your why!
· I wish I could say everyday was easy and I did not need to be reminded why I serve my family, but that is not always the case. I have had several days in which I would get overwhelmed and I complained excessively to my spouse, the Lord, my covenant sisters and felt sorry for myself. It is always in those moments where God reminds me that I am serving Him while serving my family.
3. Lean on the Lord for help!
· Since you know part of your purpose with your family is to serve the Lord while serving them, remember to lean on God for everything that you are lacking. As mothers we often feel like we are put last and we feel depleted of strength at times. It is in those moments that you must plug away and ask the Lord for His help! And He will help you. There have been many moments where I felt like I was drowning and that was a direct result of not leaning on the Lord.
4. Do not neglect community!
· I think one of my biggest mistakes was trying to get through excruciating moments alone. My thought process was, “Get it together and then reemerge.” That was terrible for several reasons. First, the enemy would work on my thoughts and that would push me into a deeper pit of self-pity. Secondly, I could not find the help I needed while I was in that pit. My biggest breakthroughs have come from the wise Godly counsel that I have received. Especially communities of mom’s who have been there and have amazing ideas that you can benefit from. I know it is not always easy to trust others with your issues but pray about it and God will send you who you need. Facebook mommy groups and email chains have also been helpful when I have been in a mommy rut and needed to know I was not alone.
5. Please do not beat yourself up!
· A close neighbor to self-pity is condemnation. As mothers, sometimes we feel like we failed if things are not going smoothly in the home. If the laundry is not done or done but not folded, the dishes still in the sink, kid’s toys all over the place, and I could go on an on and on. No, we do not always make the mark but if we are striving and placing God first, He will honor that. This has been a recent struggle of mine that I have been trying to tackle. I have a 3-year-old, 2-year-old, and a 5-month-old so every day is not going to be warm and fuzzies around the house. I have learned to be OK with the dishes not being done before I shut my eyes. I have learned to be OK with asking my husband for help and not appearing to be super woman anymore.
All in all at the end of the day as Moms, we have to remember this "We are amazing and we are doing a beautiful job!"
Okay, now that my noteworthy points are done. Let us look at my mommy schedule that I have created. I provided the noteworthy points first as context but keep in mind, a schedule is what glues everything together. My purpose for making this our first blog discussion was to establish dialog and see where we are in our day to day lives as moms.
I would love to know what schedules and routines you have for your families!