The Truth About Lust

Most mainstream television shows teach us that lust is normal. Christian women and men idolize fictional characters that indulge in promiscuous behavior in an attempt to conform to a world that were designed to transform. Think about how many Christian’s you know idolize these characters:

 Carrie - Sex and the City

Oliva Pope – Scandal

Mindy Lahiri - Mindy’s Project

Mary Jane - Being Mary Jane

Tony Soprano - The Sopranos

Joey Tribbiani – Friends

Bridget Jones – Bridget Jones Diaries

I could go on and on… but I’m sure you get the picture. I encounter plenty of people from all walks of life every day. In fact, I make it my business to surround myself with people that don’t think, look, or process situations like me. I often overhear conversations about the sexual escapades of people – even the unmarried Christians. The fact that people have made a lifestyle out of legitimizing casual sex is frightening.  From what I see on mainstream media, pretty soon, the heterosexual lifestyle will lose in status in the world – and even in some churches. 

Unfortunately, many Christian leaders have publicly engaged in such promiscuous behavior that it has affected the influence of their witness. On another hand, Christian leaders allow sexual immoral behavior to run rampant in the leadership of the church because they are too cowardly to preach against sin. Then, there are also sexually immoral Christian leaders that preach that God is a delivering God, but won’t seek deliverance from lust. Here’s the question, WHY is it so hard to overcome lust? My friends, I think I have the answer: lust “feels” good.

That’s right, lust feels good- to your flesh. In our culture, lust is not only the basis on conversation for people, it is the foundation many friendships, marriages, job promotions and financial provision. It’s easy to lust because it has become common. We see it on television. We hear it in music. It’s glorified on billboards. If some of us were honest, we have secretly wished that promiscuity was not a sin because we want to love and God and screw who we want. Fortunately, it doesn’t work like that. God doesn’t make exceptions to his commandments because we can’t practice self-control. Yes, that man/woman may be extremely easy on the eyes – but they aren’t worth your soul. 

I could give you ten ways to avoid lust, which I may do at a later date, but I’m more concerning with getting to the root of the issue. In my opinion, a person could stop engaging in lustful behavior at any given time – if the person chooses to. I’m not a fan of excuses. A repeated mistake is not a mistake at all, it’s a decision. It’s a battle in the spirit and sometimes we let our flesh win. 

We don’t fight, we surrender. 

We speak in tongues, but can’t keep your physical tongue in our mouth.

We “like” inspirational statuses, but engage in promiscuous behavior which compromises a whole other “status”.

We ask for forgiveness, but don’t repent.

We answer that late-night text KNOWING it will lead us straight into a web of sin.

We let our sexual libido ruin our spiritual lives and expect God to receive our tainted worship.


We marry for the sex, and still cheat. 

We abstain from sex, but consistently dabble in sexual impurity (sexting, masturbation, etc.)

What’s the root of the issue? Denial.